As social creatures, it’s no surprise that building relationships and community is critical to your well-being — and to making the most of your college experience. Friends bring joy, help you succeed academically, connect you with opportunities, and can become lifelong connections. A sense of belonging also supports your mental health in meaningful ways. There are real, practical ways to build connection at UNC-Chapel Hill, even if it feels difficult.
Here are some steps to help you get connected:
1. Start by showing up
Carolina offers loads of opportunities to explore your interests and learn more about yourself. Step outside your comfort zone and try something new — attend a student organization event, visit the Morrison Art Studio, try out for a sports club, or watch a film screening. Do what sounds interesting and feels meaningful. You don’t have to have it all figured out to get started.
Ways to find events and activities:
- Attend FallFest and Weeks of Welcome events.
- Explore student organizations and activities on Heel Life
- Say “yes” to invitations whenever you can
- Ask fellow students and staff about what they recommend
2. Be patient with the process
After trying something out, take a moment to consider what you liked and what might better meet your needs. Would you go to something similar again? This kind of reflection helps you make choices that work best for you.
3. Keep showing up
Belonging tends to develop gradually, through repeated contact with people in shared spaces. When something feels like a reasonable fit, keep going back. Introduce yourself, engage with the people who organize and participate in the group, and give yourself permission to become a familiar face. That’s often where real connection begins.
Having trouble finding your people?
You’re not alone — and you don’t have to figure it out by yourself. Reach out to a mental health resource to talk through what might help.